Dicipline and Confrontation in Music Ministry

Often times in our music ministries, weather it be bands, choirs, groups, etc., we tend shy away from correcting people. However, when we do correct them it is in such a way that the common person will not receive it.

The best way to build is with the positive reinforcement of encouragement and communication. There are times, though, when discipline and confrontation become necessary. When these times arise you will be glad you used the first two. If you build a good relationship with those your are leading, times of confrontation will be less drama filled. I'm sure everyone has dealt with a least one bone head choir member ( wild, uncontrollable, and unsubmitted ) who refuses to follow anyone's instruction. These people need to be on an island all to themselves.

For example, if I build a relationship with my drummer, it will not be hard for him to receive a rebuke regarding his playing loud or lack of prayer. The key is to consistently encourage him so he can more easily swallow the rebuke when it comes. Because of the ongoing positive reinforcement, the relationship will be less strained by a few moments of confrontation.

Now, don't misunderstand me. Confrontation is not a fun thing to do especially it you have built a relationship with someone. However, on this side of leadership it is part of the job. I have not encountered one of my band members or singers that enjoy rebuke, but in order for the vision to continue it must happen. If it is done correctly it can build a strong worship team, choir, group, band, etc. These are a few tips that you can use when correcting someone in your group, choir, etc:

1. Do it one on one, not publicly ( Unless this person is outwardly refusing to follow the set guidelines.)

2. Specifically address the problem area, giving examples if possible.

3. Reaffirm the individual's value to you and the team.

4. Be sensitive to the individual's temperament and response to correction ( just as a parent would a child).

I hope these helpful tips will help you in your music ministry.

Shalom,

Elijah